When you do the unexpected you get the unexpected.
What did you expect?
You can not get something different if you continue to try the same way to get it.
You can only get something different if you do something different.
Sounds so simple,
Yet we will try to do things again and again with greater amounts of control to “control” the outcome
When the other outcomes can’t happen if, with control, they can only happen with openness to them.
Try saying something different.
Like when you feel yourself coming into a situation where you could say something nicer,
Do it.
Like when you feel like you want to ask your children, what were you thinking?
You might say, what was your intention?
Like when someone says something mean to you, instead of fighting back,
Say, “I know you didn’t mean that you must be angry about…”
Like when you are already mad and you find yourself at the point of being mad at anyone,
Tell yourself, anyone is a moving target right now, so I am better off not speaking at all when I feel like this.
Never to forget, one of the most unexpected things to do, to grow patience with,
Is simply to not say anything at all.
Silence is a language all in itself.
Silence lets the other person see what they are up to
And provide a strength to the person who is silent,
At least until you can balance your thoughts and speak with a sense of love rather than stirring things up.
Speaking in a tone of partnership rather than a tone of ownership, meaning you own them.
No one wants to feel that, and if that is what is given, that is what is received.
Giving with heart brings hearts to you.
Giving with love teaches love in groves.
Giving with hope gives hope to all involved.
Rewind your actions and take other roads.
Speak a language that does not injure and you will as well find beauty in the other sides of actions.
It is clear that when we are hurt we tend to hurt others
And when we heal, as we heal, there is enough healing to go around.
All healing is, is doing the unexpected
Surprise yourself, and let what happens surprise you!