What is it about relationships that keep us guessing?
Is it that we want them too bad?
Is it that we are not sure what to do or say?
How could we be so sure in other areas of our lives and then not in a relationship?
It stems from us simply not being sure about being loved.
We are not sure how it looks or feel like we can relax in it.
We feel like it takes time for us to be “ourselves” rather than just being ourselves.
It is funny how we judge ourselves before anyone has a chance to judge us.
We know what it is like when we meet someone
And they are relaxed and because of that, we are attracted to them.
They don’t have to “act” relaxed, they just are.
You don’t even care what they look like or what they are wearing.
You are attracted to their comfort with themselves that you will love initially and grow to love more along the way.
We think it is what we wear that day or circumstances when we say, this happened and I was just…meaning you were caught off guard just being yourself.
Our instincts attract us to each other when we are real.
When we are not relaxed within ourselves, we try to control the outside of us
With our clothes,
Clever comments
Moments of thinking we have won something
We don’t win anything for long if we are not true to our lives and live in the truth of us.
I know there is so much to be said for physical appearance
At least initially
And for a great car or home
At least until you own it.
Or a wonderful job,
As long as you love it.
However, we tend to forget those things when we are not feeling great
And use those things when we feel on top of our game.
Yet you are not a game.
You are a person
Whose heart is attractable and loving
And could stand on its own if you let it
And could bring to you all that you want, if you let it.
We can not control with our things what to bring to us from others.
We can simply be us and attract others who like the us – of us.
And we can breathe in the moments that teach us it is OK to think cleanly
And greater even to live in the life with the lights on
And to feel accepted no matter what.
The only time we are not accepted is when we do not accept ourselves.
Compassion for yourself is the foundation of love of you
And the love of you is the love that brings others to you.
Everyone loves to feel love, and when you feel it, you can see it too!