I have met people who said they loved me and then acted like they don’t. Then I thought, “How come they do not love me?” Well, that turned out to be all about me.
They did love me, enough to let me into their own world where they did not love themselves and simply treated me as they treat themselves. If their injuries were really bad, they then treated themselves better than they treated me and simply wanted to plug me into their world and never know anything else about me when there was so much more to know.
We talk about others in a negative sense when we hear those stories, however, I feel a gratefulness and appreciation for every single soul I have ever met to this day that taught me so clearing what injury to the soul looks like and how it feels to receive those injuries from them.
The greatest take away for me, over time was that it was never my injury. It was theirs. So I now give souls back their injuries instead of taking them on as my own.
For a long time, I did not know the difference. I used to take behavior that I did not understand and think it was mine and I would try to fix it, whatever it was.
We say, narcissism is why people do that, or anger, or they do not go too deep, or that they do not care, yet at the end of the day, they are a soul.
Every soul has a purpose, a reason, a method to their madness and still we want to blame, point fingers and feel like it is them and not us, or us and not them.
It all falls back to being objective which is the hardest thing to do when you are in these situations.
It is hard to say, “Wow, this person is suffering” rather than “This person is a jerk of some kind.”
Objectivity tells you simply, where you belong or where you do not belong.
The greater questions are how or why was I attracted to this person in the first place? What kept me there? What in my thoughts said that this was special to my soul? What did I learn from this person? What are they teaching me or have taught me?
This is where you heal rather than where you will remain in hurt and sadness.
Your soul, my soul, our souls have been given the challenges of facing injuries to ourselves and to others.
The greatest reward of learning is to know what is yours and what is not yours and how you can, if you can, deal with the circumstances before you.
We are over blaming others. We are now onto understanding each other.
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